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Surprising Ways I Help People With Their Voice

Do you ever get a cough at the strangest time—right when you’re about to speak to your boss, post something meaningful on social media, or finally sit down to write that chapter of your book?

Our voice doesn’t lie.

We are far more transparent in our voice than we realise, and the way our voice responds in different situations can be a powerful clue about what’s going on inside us.

Most of us already know that when we’re emotional, tired, or unhappy, our voice will show it—even if we can’t say the words. Think of the times a friend or family member phoned you and within the first couple of seconds, even if they said “I’m fine,” something in their tone told you instantly: no, they’re not.

So the question becomes:

How do we turn our voice into a powerful doorway for self-awareness rather than something we only notice when it fails us?

In my work, when someone tells me they’re having difficulty with their voice, I usually ask more questions than they expect. I’ll ask what exactly was happening at the time, or how they were feeling. I’m not checking whether they had a cold or breathed in dust—though of course, sometimes a frog in your throat is just a frog in your throat.

But often… it’s not.

Because of my background in psychology, singing, intuition, and years of listening deeply to people’s voices, I can sense emotions, patterns, and unspoken truths in the way someone’s voice shifts or gets blocked. The voice reveals so much more than we realise.

It’s one of the most honest instruments we have.

Here are two fascinating examples from just this week:

1. The sore throat that wasn’t physical at all

A friend joined me for my Sing From the Heart challenge and mentioned she had a sore throat that would affect her singing. As we talked more deeply, she revealed she’d been in a situation where she felt vulnerable but couldn’t express it at the time. Those feelings had nowhere to go.

I suggested her voice might be alerting her to the need to express that vulnerability—even if she hadn’t been able to do it then. We worked on some phrases and strategies she could use next time she needed to set a boundary or express her feelings.

As we talked, something shifted.

The frog in her throat disappeared.

The soreness lifted.

She could feel the change instantly.

A complete transformation in less than twenty minutes.

This is the miracle of emotional honesty meeting vocal awareness.

2. The coughing fit with a message attached

This morning, I spoke with someone who has a podcast, a strong presence online, and several books written. She told me she was trying to finish formatting her newest book when she had an uncontrollable coughing fit—so intense she couldn’t finish her work, even though she was under a deadline.

She walked away, came back, and still couldn’t push through the coughing.

As we talked, I asked about her ancestors. She knows her family line back more than ten generations. When I tuned in, I intuitively felt that an ancestor was trying to communicate something about her book.

I know this sounds left of field, but here’s the wild part:

I felt her ancestor urging her to put more of her soul energy into the introduction—specifically the first and last paragraphs.

She was shocked that I said this.

Her coughing fit had happened exactly while she was writing the last paragraph of the introduction.

Now she sees clearly what was missing. She understands that the words were technically “right,” but they weren’t fully hers. And I cannot wait to see what changes when she writes from a deeper place of truth.

Why the Voice Is an Access Point to Self-Awareness

Your voice is not just a sound that comes out of your mouth.

It is a bridge between your inner world and the outer world.

Here’s why the voice is so revealing:

1. Your voice is connected to your nervous system

When you're stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, or afraid, your vocal cords tighten.

Your breath shortens.

Your pitch rises.

Your tone thins out.

You may try to hide your feelings—but your voice doesn’t.

2. Your voice carries past experiences

Old beliefs, unprocessed emotions, and unresolved conflicts live in the body.

When something triggers them—even subtly—the voice reacts.

3. Your voice is a truth-teller

It reveals when you’re:

1.     holding back

2.     pushing too hard

3.     pretending

4.     overperforming

5.     exhausted

6.     disconnected from yourself

7.     not saying what you need

Your voice speaks your truth long before your mind admits it.

4. Your authentic voice emerges when your inner world is aligned

When you are in integrity with yourself, your voice becomes steadier, warmer, clearer.

When you are not… it fractures.

This is why I say:

Your voice is your greatest tool for self-awareness.

It shows you who you are in this moment—and what you’re avoiding, longing for, or struggling with.

Practical Tips: What to Do If You Often Get a Frog in Your Throat

If your voice frequently catches, tightens, or shuts down, here are some practical steps you can take:

1. Pause before reacting

Instead of pushing through, ask yourself:

“What was I feeling right before this happened?”

2. Check your breath

A tight throat usually means your breathing has become shallow.

Inhale gently through the nose, exhale slowly through the mouth.

Do this 3–5 times.

3. Place your hand on your heart

This gives the nervous system the message:

“You’re safe.”

Often the throat relaxes immediately.

4. Ask the deeper question

Try:

“What am I afraid to say?”

“Whose reaction am I worried about?”

“Where am I holding back?”

5. Notice patterns

Does your throat tighten when you speak to certain people?

When you need to set a boundary?

When you’re telling the truth?

When you’re trying to be “professional”?

Patterns reveal what needs healing.

6. Try humming

A gentle hum can loosen the throat and reconnect voice, breath, and body.

7. Don’t assume it’s physical

Sometimes it is…

But just as often, it’s emotional, intuitive, or energetic.

8. Ask for help

If your voice frequently shuts down, it may be trying to guide you toward something important.

You don’t have to interpret it alone.

Your Voice Is Always Speaking to You

The next time you feel a cough, a tightening, a “frog,” or sudden sinus pressure... ask yourself:

“What could my voice be trying to tell me?”

If you’d like help understanding the deeper message or exploring where your voice may be holding old patterns, blocks, or truths you haven’t yet spoken, send me a message.

My Awaken Your Voice Method gently reconnects the inner voice with the outer voice through intuition, self-acceptance, and self-love.

Your voice isn’t just sound—it’s guidance.

It’s wisdom.

It’s a map.

And when those blocks release, there is suddenly space for a stronger, deeper, more authentic version of you to take its place.

That is the miracle.

And that is my mission.